This post was intented for 3/14/15... Only now to be posted over a year later.... I post it now exactly as I left it in the draft, as I fear editing it now is only disruptive to how I was then. Haha
I started this blog 4 years ago, with only 4 posts. My favorite number is 4. Random coincidence?
I've grown a lot in these 4 years (not necessarily grown up, but grown). When you have a personality like mine, there is no settling, so it's only natural I've grown. Let's be honest here... life is too short to 'grow up' and by grow up, I mean be lame and serious ALL the time. Ugh! Boring!
Nearly all of my friends, family, colleagues and acquaintances have wed and had a baby, or one or the other or both, or whatever. I'm an Aunt and a Godmother at 28 years old. Then again, I'm 4 months from being a Master's Student and I'm the only one of my group who can say that. I'm happily single with no plan of dating anyone soon. I've dated a lot here in Las Vegas. I'm tired of men (wait... I mean boys) in Las Vegas. Not one of them bring 100% to the table. Then again, I read this article today in a magazine (I think Cameron Diaz was commenting on this) and it said that in a relationship, both people have to be at the same point in their lives separately, in order to be one together. For example, if one person is ready to be in a real long-term relationship and the other person is just testing out the water, then it will never work. Both parties must be in the same 'stage' of readiness or life or whatever. I related to this because all the men I've dated are not on the same page I am. I've had flings, I've had 'serious' relationships where I thought I was in love.... none of them worked because we were never meeting at the same stage. Anyway... I digress.
What the hell have I been doing for 4 years???? My god. I'm alive. So that's a success. I've always thought I would die young. Seriously.... for as long as I can remember (which, let's be honest, only goes back to my young teens) I thought I would die young. Maybe cancer. Maybe a car accident. Something tragic for sure, where lots of people would feel sad enough to come to my funeral, which of course would be a party at the beach. But yeah... I don't know why I've always thought that. Weird, I know...
Do you ever have recurring dreams?
Thursday, April 21, 2016
Tuesday, June 28, 2011
Number .04 - Fuckin' Perfect Britt
Self evaluation time:
As previously stated in my last post, I'm not fuckin' perfect!
I believe in balance; and perfection simply doesn't allow a person to be any other way but perfect.
I am flawed. I have issues just like everyone else in this world (not to say my issues are the same or comparable, just simply that we all have issues). Considering how important balance is to me, I forced myself to write down my flaws, look them in the face and take time to reflect on them and ideally improve the balance in my life.
For a person who always thinks her opinion matters and is, 9 times out of 10, correct above all else; it wasn't a fun process writing down my flaws. In fact, I'm still hesitating posting this to the world. Like, Why the hell am I doing this?! I guess part of me feels like if I just get it out, then I can start working on it. If I get it out, then it's no secret and I don't have to hide part of who I am... to anyone.
I'm ridiculously organized, so I categorized my flaws. Lol
Sometimes Good and Sometimes Bad:
1) My natural volume is set on 8 most days. I'm a naturally loud person and I like being heard. I can't stand when people talk over me or cut me off in a sentence.
2) Being loud gets recognition... I'm constantly the center of attention because everyone can hear me. I know I shouldn't always be the center of attention, but I also don't mind it.
3) I am opinionated. I have improved with this, but no joke, it's hard not to speak my mind!
4) I'm independent and most the time have to fail before I ask for help. Some people call this 'stubborn' but I like knowing that I at least tried to do something before asking someone else to do it for me.
5) I have very high expectations for the people I surround myself with.
6) I think I'm a very logical and straight-forward type of thinker (always thinking of efficiency and productivity) and because of this, I'm always right. Because who doesn't want to do things the fast and most efficient way?
7) I take short cuts and procrastinate. This was harder in school than it is now, but I certainly know that some of my best work has been late at night before the assignment was due.
8) I don't commit to anything unless I'm in love with it. I have to have an emotional connection to commit to doing anything. It means I'm passionate, but it also leaves out a lot that maybe I'll never do.
9) My vocabulary is simple. I don't know a lot of big words, but I can also talk to a crowd of people and know for a fact everyone understands what I'm saying.
10) I'm a natural leader. I will most definitely step up to the plate and take lead if no one else will. Most cases though, this leads to more responsibility for myself and more stress.
11) I'm very protective of my property and will claim territory easily. This means I always know what's mine and I take care of it, but people see it as not 'sharing'.
12) I'm a little bit stuck in my ways (like my daily habits). I freak out a little bit when someone messes up my flow.
13) I'm a frugal shopper! It's obnoxious sometimes because I like pretty/luxury things, but good because I can value a dollar.
14) I'm not a very humble person. I know my strengths and pride myself on them.
15) I have cellulite and battle acne all the time. On the upside, it reminds me I'm not perfect :)
16) I'm forgiving and until you break my trust, I will trust you. This puts me in a risk zone most the time, because people can take advantage of me. But I also know it's a good thing to forgive people.
Just Not Good (and need to work on):
1) I'm extremely defensive. If I feel attacked or accused of something, I put up a guard and will fire back with the first thing I can in order to get the spot light off me.
2) Furthermore, I will lie in order to avoid a fight/argument. Whether it's me not speaking my mind to avoid a fight or me lying to direct questions to avoid a fight, I lie. I obviously know it's wrong, but it's conflicting because the ONE thing I passionately hate in life is fighting/arguing. I've improved this dramatically in the last year, but still working on it...
3) In addition to the above, when it comes to an argument that I don't want to continue or feel like I've been hurt or whatever, I will give the other person the silent treatment. It's fierce and really puts a person on edge. I do this for 3 reasons (I don't know if I'm justifying my actions here or what)... One; because I want to end the argument. Two; because I want to make sure I don't say something I don't mean. Three; because I want both parties to calm the F down in order to come back together and talk like normal people.
4) When I truly care about a person, I am sensitive and my feelings can be crushed in a simple sentence if the words aren't nice. I'd love to grow tougher skin, but it's hard because I care so much about what they think.
5) I AM SO FORGETFUL! Honestly, I just want to have normal people brain capacity! Lol
6) I curse a lot. With work in the last year and a half, I have certainly improved this, but I know I could do better.
7) My patience with people who don't have common sense is immensely small. It's like a switch they flip inside me that turns me into a raging, impatient bitch.
8) 9 times out of 10 I'm late getting somewhere. It's not like I don't have a watch... so wtf?
9) I'm selfish in the manner that I only want to surround myself with positive and fun people. I will ignore even my family if they aren't being pleasant company :/
10) I don't have a good sense of seniority. I usually see myself as an equal before I will see myself as 'under class'. In my mind, we're all people. But in 'society' it's different and it makes working in the corporate world quite difficult.
I'm sure my flaws are much more extensive than this list is. However, I feel accomplished in knowing I was able to admit this in text.
As humans, we can only experience life one day at a time and learn from each and every lesson that gets thrown our way. The hardest part, of course, is learning the lesson.
Live.Love.Learn.Laugh.
BRITT~
As previously stated in my last post, I'm not fuckin' perfect!
I believe in balance; and perfection simply doesn't allow a person to be any other way but perfect.
I am flawed. I have issues just like everyone else in this world (not to say my issues are the same or comparable, just simply that we all have issues). Considering how important balance is to me, I forced myself to write down my flaws, look them in the face and take time to reflect on them and ideally improve the balance in my life.
For a person who always thinks her opinion matters and is, 9 times out of 10, correct above all else; it wasn't a fun process writing down my flaws. In fact, I'm still hesitating posting this to the world. Like, Why the hell am I doing this?! I guess part of me feels like if I just get it out, then I can start working on it. If I get it out, then it's no secret and I don't have to hide part of who I am... to anyone.
I'm ridiculously organized, so I categorized my flaws. Lol
Sometimes Good and Sometimes Bad:
1) My natural volume is set on 8 most days. I'm a naturally loud person and I like being heard. I can't stand when people talk over me or cut me off in a sentence.
2) Being loud gets recognition... I'm constantly the center of attention because everyone can hear me. I know I shouldn't always be the center of attention, but I also don't mind it.
3) I am opinionated. I have improved with this, but no joke, it's hard not to speak my mind!
4) I'm independent and most the time have to fail before I ask for help. Some people call this 'stubborn' but I like knowing that I at least tried to do something before asking someone else to do it for me.
5) I have very high expectations for the people I surround myself with.
6) I think I'm a very logical and straight-forward type of thinker (always thinking of efficiency and productivity) and because of this, I'm always right. Because who doesn't want to do things the fast and most efficient way?
7) I take short cuts and procrastinate. This was harder in school than it is now, but I certainly know that some of my best work has been late at night before the assignment was due.
8) I don't commit to anything unless I'm in love with it. I have to have an emotional connection to commit to doing anything. It means I'm passionate, but it also leaves out a lot that maybe I'll never do.
9) My vocabulary is simple. I don't know a lot of big words, but I can also talk to a crowd of people and know for a fact everyone understands what I'm saying.
10) I'm a natural leader. I will most definitely step up to the plate and take lead if no one else will. Most cases though, this leads to more responsibility for myself and more stress.
11) I'm very protective of my property and will claim territory easily. This means I always know what's mine and I take care of it, but people see it as not 'sharing'.
12) I'm a little bit stuck in my ways (like my daily habits). I freak out a little bit when someone messes up my flow.
13) I'm a frugal shopper! It's obnoxious sometimes because I like pretty/luxury things, but good because I can value a dollar.
14) I'm not a very humble person. I know my strengths and pride myself on them.
15) I have cellulite and battle acne all the time. On the upside, it reminds me I'm not perfect :)
16) I'm forgiving and until you break my trust, I will trust you. This puts me in a risk zone most the time, because people can take advantage of me. But I also know it's a good thing to forgive people.
Just Not Good (and need to work on):
1) I'm extremely defensive. If I feel attacked or accused of something, I put up a guard and will fire back with the first thing I can in order to get the spot light off me.
2) Furthermore, I will lie in order to avoid a fight/argument. Whether it's me not speaking my mind to avoid a fight or me lying to direct questions to avoid a fight, I lie. I obviously know it's wrong, but it's conflicting because the ONE thing I passionately hate in life is fighting/arguing. I've improved this dramatically in the last year, but still working on it...
3) In addition to the above, when it comes to an argument that I don't want to continue or feel like I've been hurt or whatever, I will give the other person the silent treatment. It's fierce and really puts a person on edge. I do this for 3 reasons (I don't know if I'm justifying my actions here or what)... One; because I want to end the argument. Two; because I want to make sure I don't say something I don't mean. Three; because I want both parties to calm the F down in order to come back together and talk like normal people.
4) When I truly care about a person, I am sensitive and my feelings can be crushed in a simple sentence if the words aren't nice. I'd love to grow tougher skin, but it's hard because I care so much about what they think.
5) I AM SO FORGETFUL! Honestly, I just want to have normal people brain capacity! Lol
6) I curse a lot. With work in the last year and a half, I have certainly improved this, but I know I could do better.
7) My patience with people who don't have common sense is immensely small. It's like a switch they flip inside me that turns me into a raging, impatient bitch.
8) 9 times out of 10 I'm late getting somewhere. It's not like I don't have a watch... so wtf?
9) I'm selfish in the manner that I only want to surround myself with positive and fun people. I will ignore even my family if they aren't being pleasant company :/
10) I don't have a good sense of seniority. I usually see myself as an equal before I will see myself as 'under class'. In my mind, we're all people. But in 'society' it's different and it makes working in the corporate world quite difficult.
I'm sure my flaws are much more extensive than this list is. However, I feel accomplished in knowing I was able to admit this in text.
As humans, we can only experience life one day at a time and learn from each and every lesson that gets thrown our way. The hardest part, of course, is learning the lesson.
Live.Love.Learn.Laugh.
BRITT~
Tuesday, April 26, 2011
Number .03 - Who the hell says I can't?!?!
Why is it that after everything I have been through in my life (which I just simply won't get into for sake of time) that my brain says to me "Britt, you don't have to put up with this. You don't have to do anything you don't want to. You are BRITT and you can do things YOUR way. An 18-wheeler can't hold you down Britt. Go for it!"?
And in the mind of other people it's more like, "Why can't I be that person? (they seem so much happier) Why can't I do that? Why don't I look that way? Why can't I make that much money? Why am I in this horrible relationship? I hate this town, why can't I move? I don't know what to do. I just can't get out of this rut. I hate my life."
Is this because people are 'wired' differently, maybe genetics? Or is this state of mind a choice we each have the capability of making?
I'm going to stand by my belief that EVERY person on this planet has the ability to Choose their own circumstances and that most people who constantly are asking themselves "Why?" are terrified of change. I have personally been through a considerable amount of 'drama' in my life and each time I've had to overcome a difficult situation, my only question is "Who the hell says I can't?!".
So with that in mind, I have come up with a list :)
I have personally done all of these things at different times in my life and each have been extremely helpful in finding my personal happiness. I hope you can at least take one thing and use it (even as a suggestion to someone you know).
1) SMILE - I swear... I can't stand to look at a person with a shitty look on their face. It's simply not pleasant. So no matter what you are doing, where you are... just smile for fuck sake. I don't care if you smile at a damn stranger. Just freakin smile! :D
2) VITAMINS and EXERCISE - Seriously! Get out of bed or off the fucking couch and go DO something! Skip around your neighborhood, go to the gym, hiking, join a sports team, home video work-outs, hot and sweaty sex... I honestly don't care. Just get active! 30 minutes of exercise daily will boost your self-esteem more than you can even imagine right now. It's like getting a cat in water at first, but once you start, you will feel amazing! Also, taking your daily vitamins and implementing a better diet will help keep you alive longer. This is something to cherish :)
3) MEDITATION - Clearing your mind of numerous negative thoughts is difficult. Especially if you have a specific event that keeps replaying like a damn record. (seriously hate that!) And I know it sounds stupid at first and like "only weird people meditate"... However, meditation has done more for my mental health than anything else. (I'm the type of person to analyze something over and over and over, until I eventually have a break down about it) Do your mind a huge favor and before you fall asleep, close your eyes, laying on your back in the dark, just breathe. Take slow, long, and deep breathes. When you inhale, choose a positive word (for example: Love). When you exhale, choose a negative word (for example: Hate). This is the "In with the Good, and out with the Bad" theory. So repeat the word Love over and over and over while you inhale, and repeat the word Hate over and over and over while you exhale. Focusing only on these words will help clear your mind and focus on what you need in your life. Some other good words are Wisdom, Peace, Happiness, Strength, and Faith. Some other negative words are Stress, Anger, Weakness, Jealousy, and "I can't".
4) VOLUNTEER TIME - Now it sounds like I'm just crazy... I'm sorry. I swear I'm not. I have found that giving something or someone else your time for free is quite an amazing experience. Once you get involved in a certain charity, you begin to actually feel like you're making a difference. I can't even describe it really. You just have to do it. And I don't care how much money you make / donate... even rich people need to get off their asses and do something for free! :)
5) FIND YOUR PASSION - Every person has something they can't live without. For me, it's music. I go crazy if I forget my ipod at home for 1 day! I have to have my music. So find what that one thing is and try to incorporate it into your daily life. For example, if your passion is surfing and you live in Las Vegas... well... no excuses, you should just move! haha...
The following is less detailed, but just as important!
6) Get up and get ready everyday, even if you don't have plans (yet).
7) Get your hair done - Cut, color... whatever. Just be careful who you go to cuz if you get butchered, you're gonna feel worse. lol
8) Wake up at the same time every day (truly amazing what this does for the body).
9) Write your thoughts down on paper, no matter what they are.
10) Make a phone call to someone you care about but haven't spoken to in a while. (no texting here)
11) Get a plant and try to keep it alive. (I named mine, lol)
12) Open the windows and let the light in! Sleep with the blinds open, so you wake up to the sunshine :)
13) Send holiday cards to family and friends... even if it's via Email.
14) Buy a gift for just yourself at least once a month. (does not have to be expensive!)
15) Take time every day to realize how many people in this world have it way worse than you do.
16) Quit your bad habits. If you smoke, quit (it's only killing you). If you drink, limit yourself to social occasions. If you have bible study every night of the week, when do you have fun just for yourself? If you are addicted to porn or sex or anything sexually related... Try boosting your fitness because honestly there's nothing less depressing than being alone at night with only yourself to have sex with.
17) Create a bucket list. It will help you set goals and define what's important to you. And it's fun :)
18) Clean your bedroom / house... messiness is not a pleasant thing to be around in general. And cluttered closets and cabinets are stressful.
19) Redesign your resume. When that next job pops up, you'll be ready!
20) Make sure you have a savings account and you are consistently contributing to it.
21) Make sure you have a job and you keep it until you find a better job. I don't care who you are, every person cares about money, even if it's just to pay the bills.
22) Read a book start to finish... doesn't matter what kind of book.
23) Make your bed every day.
24) Realize that for 99.9% of problems, there is a solution.
25) Realize that you are smart enough to figure out that solution.
26) Realize you are brave and strong enough to fix the problem.
27) Flirt... just for the hell of it.
28) Home improvement projects are fun and they let you feel accomplished.
29) Set your intensions for each day... just tell yourself what you want to accomplish (physically, mentally, spiritually)... I do this while I'm in the shower, lol.
And last but very not least:
30) Attend a church service, even if you don't believe in God. The 10 Commandments are a good guide to live by. In church, they remind you of these morally good things :)
Yes, I know this list is full of great ideas. But are you daring enough to try them?
On a different (but semi related) note, let me just say...
YOU CANNOT LOVE SOMEONE ELSE IF YOU DO NOT LOVE YOURSELF!!!
That comment speaks for itself and if you don't believe it then you're a damn idiot.
If you're like one of my ex-boyfriends and 'don't know how to love yourself', I just gave you an entire fucking list of ideas. Try them! :]
Live.Love.Learn.Laugh.
BRITT~
And in the mind of other people it's more like, "Why can't I be that person? (they seem so much happier) Why can't I do that? Why don't I look that way? Why can't I make that much money? Why am I in this horrible relationship? I hate this town, why can't I move? I don't know what to do. I just can't get out of this rut. I hate my life."
Is this because people are 'wired' differently, maybe genetics? Or is this state of mind a choice we each have the capability of making?
I'm going to stand by my belief that EVERY person on this planet has the ability to Choose their own circumstances and that most people who constantly are asking themselves "Why?" are terrified of change. I have personally been through a considerable amount of 'drama' in my life and each time I've had to overcome a difficult situation, my only question is "Who the hell says I can't?!".
So with that in mind, I have come up with a list :)
I have personally done all of these things at different times in my life and each have been extremely helpful in finding my personal happiness. I hope you can at least take one thing and use it (even as a suggestion to someone you know).
1) SMILE - I swear... I can't stand to look at a person with a shitty look on their face. It's simply not pleasant. So no matter what you are doing, where you are... just smile for fuck sake. I don't care if you smile at a damn stranger. Just freakin smile! :D
2) VITAMINS and EXERCISE - Seriously! Get out of bed or off the fucking couch and go DO something! Skip around your neighborhood, go to the gym, hiking, join a sports team, home video work-outs, hot and sweaty sex... I honestly don't care. Just get active! 30 minutes of exercise daily will boost your self-esteem more than you can even imagine right now. It's like getting a cat in water at first, but once you start, you will feel amazing! Also, taking your daily vitamins and implementing a better diet will help keep you alive longer. This is something to cherish :)
3) MEDITATION - Clearing your mind of numerous negative thoughts is difficult. Especially if you have a specific event that keeps replaying like a damn record. (seriously hate that!) And I know it sounds stupid at first and like "only weird people meditate"... However, meditation has done more for my mental health than anything else. (I'm the type of person to analyze something over and over and over, until I eventually have a break down about it) Do your mind a huge favor and before you fall asleep, close your eyes, laying on your back in the dark, just breathe. Take slow, long, and deep breathes. When you inhale, choose a positive word (for example: Love). When you exhale, choose a negative word (for example: Hate). This is the "In with the Good, and out with the Bad" theory. So repeat the word Love over and over and over while you inhale, and repeat the word Hate over and over and over while you exhale. Focusing only on these words will help clear your mind and focus on what you need in your life. Some other good words are Wisdom, Peace, Happiness, Strength, and Faith. Some other negative words are Stress, Anger, Weakness, Jealousy, and "I can't".
4) VOLUNTEER TIME - Now it sounds like I'm just crazy... I'm sorry. I swear I'm not. I have found that giving something or someone else your time for free is quite an amazing experience. Once you get involved in a certain charity, you begin to actually feel like you're making a difference. I can't even describe it really. You just have to do it. And I don't care how much money you make / donate... even rich people need to get off their asses and do something for free! :)
5) FIND YOUR PASSION - Every person has something they can't live without. For me, it's music. I go crazy if I forget my ipod at home for 1 day! I have to have my music. So find what that one thing is and try to incorporate it into your daily life. For example, if your passion is surfing and you live in Las Vegas... well... no excuses, you should just move! haha...
The following is less detailed, but just as important!
6) Get up and get ready everyday, even if you don't have plans (yet).
7) Get your hair done - Cut, color... whatever. Just be careful who you go to cuz if you get butchered, you're gonna feel worse. lol
8) Wake up at the same time every day (truly amazing what this does for the body).
9) Write your thoughts down on paper, no matter what they are.
10) Make a phone call to someone you care about but haven't spoken to in a while. (no texting here)
11) Get a plant and try to keep it alive. (I named mine, lol)
12) Open the windows and let the light in! Sleep with the blinds open, so you wake up to the sunshine :)
13) Send holiday cards to family and friends... even if it's via Email.
14) Buy a gift for just yourself at least once a month. (does not have to be expensive!)
15) Take time every day to realize how many people in this world have it way worse than you do.
16) Quit your bad habits. If you smoke, quit (it's only killing you). If you drink, limit yourself to social occasions. If you have bible study every night of the week, when do you have fun just for yourself? If you are addicted to porn or sex or anything sexually related... Try boosting your fitness because honestly there's nothing less depressing than being alone at night with only yourself to have sex with.
17) Create a bucket list. It will help you set goals and define what's important to you. And it's fun :)
18) Clean your bedroom / house... messiness is not a pleasant thing to be around in general. And cluttered closets and cabinets are stressful.
19) Redesign your resume. When that next job pops up, you'll be ready!
20) Make sure you have a savings account and you are consistently contributing to it.
21) Make sure you have a job and you keep it until you find a better job. I don't care who you are, every person cares about money, even if it's just to pay the bills.
22) Read a book start to finish... doesn't matter what kind of book.
23) Make your bed every day.
24) Realize that for 99.9% of problems, there is a solution.
25) Realize that you are smart enough to figure out that solution.
26) Realize you are brave and strong enough to fix the problem.
27) Flirt... just for the hell of it.
28) Home improvement projects are fun and they let you feel accomplished.
29) Set your intensions for each day... just tell yourself what you want to accomplish (physically, mentally, spiritually)... I do this while I'm in the shower, lol.
And last but very not least:
30) Attend a church service, even if you don't believe in God. The 10 Commandments are a good guide to live by. In church, they remind you of these morally good things :)
Yes, I know this list is full of great ideas. But are you daring enough to try them?
On a different (but semi related) note, let me just say...
YOU CANNOT LOVE SOMEONE ELSE IF YOU DO NOT LOVE YOURSELF!!!
That comment speaks for itself and if you don't believe it then you're a damn idiot.
If you're like one of my ex-boyfriends and 'don't know how to love yourself', I just gave you an entire fucking list of ideas. Try them! :]
Live.Love.Learn.Laugh.
BRITT~
Friday, April 15, 2011
Number .02 - Women want it all baby
Evaluating the statement "Women want Everything" from my first blog, it seems there is a huge misunderstanding of what it actually means.
When that statement comes out of a females mouth, a male AUTOMATICALLY hears "Woman want money".
This couldn't be more false!!!
So I've taken the last week or so to really think about what it IS that women want.
*** Reminder! This is what women want in a relationship! ***
The best analogy I have is when I go out with one my girl friends to a restaurant.
When the waiter asks us what we are going to have for dessert, we say all the desserts that sound really good and the waiter replies "Which one do you want?" (expecting us to share). And at that moment, we look at each other, laugh and say ALL OF THEM!
So... what I'm saying is that women don't want just one dessert anymore. We want whichever is going to make us HAPPY, even if that means multiple and extra calories we have to work off at the gym the next day.
Guys need to realize that women want a man who has it ALL.
To give some examples...
We want a man who is:
- Goofy and silly and has fun, but who can also be serious and care about shit
- Genuinely happy living his life and being who he is, but isn't so caught up in himself he can't see a wonderful girl standing right in front of him
- Wild and fun and takes risks, but also knows when to draw the line of safety
- Healthy and values his body because he wants to live a lifetime with his girl, but also knows how to eat dessert and drink a beer or two on the weekends
- Dirty and messy and 'manly' in his hobbies, but also knows when to be clean (like when he wants to spend time with his girl) ha ha ha
- Friendly and can meet anyone or go anywhere and have a good time, but also doesn't have to be center of attention or makes his girl worry about all the other girls at that 'good time'
- Smart and can teach us new things, but doesn't make us feel stupid for not knowing or get mad when we mess it up (we aren't perfect and on that note: anyone who thinks perfection exists is an idiot)
- Brave and will protect us and stand up for us, but isn't a bully or a jealous asshole who has to beat up every guy who hits on his girl
- Not afraid of talking and communicating what's on his mind, but also allows his girl to give her opinion on the subject and consider the advice she may give (sometime we do have good advice and all we ever want to do is HELP if we are able to).... also, no crying please (it's not manly unless someone has died)
- Not addicted to things (gambling, drugs, alcohol, video games, sex, porn, smoking) - sorry, there's no exception to this one... (maybe if a girl is a smoker, then smoking would be okay)
- Financially secure and knows the value of a dollar, but also knows when to spend money and have some fun :)
- Active and creative (like hiking, going to the lake, or simply home improvements), AND likes to involve his girl in those activities when it's not a designated "guys day"
- Thoughtful enough to make or buy cards and/or gifts to recognize a holiday or special occasion, AND knows that it's not about the amount of money spent... In fact, cards and presents don't matter as long as the guy DID something to celebrate that didn't have any benefit to him (sex always benefits a guy, so that will never be an acceptable 'gift' (I don't care how many candles are lit or rose petals are on the floor)
- Nice, but not too nice (this one is tough to accept, but it's true for at least the first year of dating)
- Considerate of the words that come out of his mouth, but also can be himself and express opinions
Really what this all comes down to is balance.
Men don't like the idea of change very often, but in order to have balance, a person has to constantly analyze what's going on around them and be willing to bend, redirect and change.
Life is tough. And love is a mother fucker.
If you're a guy reading this thinking "Well this is just a list of what Britt wants in a man. There are a million other girls out there with a million other opinions", then you're an idiot.
I'm going to be frank right here - any girl who DOESN'T look for these qualities in a relationship has something wrong with her. She's got daddy issues, drug issues, personality issues, financial issues... you name it, I guarantee she has something wrong with her, affecting her judgement in a man.
I'M NOT PERFECT!!!! (Trust me, I know this better than anyone)
The biggest thing I do differently from other girls is that I LEARN from my past and I actively CHOOSE happiness above all else.
My Questions:
1) Are you able to just sit with yourself and be happy with who you are and the life you're living?
2) Why are so many people in this world miserable? Happiness is a state of mind, not the circumstances...
3) What do you believe love is?
4) IF divorce didn't exist, would you ever get married in today's world?
Live.Love.Learn.Laugh.
BRITT~
When that statement comes out of a females mouth, a male AUTOMATICALLY hears "Woman want money".
This couldn't be more false!!!
So I've taken the last week or so to really think about what it IS that women want.
*** Reminder! This is what women want in a relationship! ***
The best analogy I have is when I go out with one my girl friends to a restaurant.
When the waiter asks us what we are going to have for dessert, we say all the desserts that sound really good and the waiter replies "Which one do you want?" (expecting us to share). And at that moment, we look at each other, laugh and say ALL OF THEM!
So... what I'm saying is that women don't want just one dessert anymore. We want whichever is going to make us HAPPY, even if that means multiple and extra calories we have to work off at the gym the next day.
Guys need to realize that women want a man who has it ALL.
To give some examples...
We want a man who is:
- Goofy and silly and has fun, but who can also be serious and care about shit
- Genuinely happy living his life and being who he is, but isn't so caught up in himself he can't see a wonderful girl standing right in front of him
- Wild and fun and takes risks, but also knows when to draw the line of safety
- Healthy and values his body because he wants to live a lifetime with his girl, but also knows how to eat dessert and drink a beer or two on the weekends
- Dirty and messy and 'manly' in his hobbies, but also knows when to be clean (like when he wants to spend time with his girl) ha ha ha
- Friendly and can meet anyone or go anywhere and have a good time, but also doesn't have to be center of attention or makes his girl worry about all the other girls at that 'good time'
- Smart and can teach us new things, but doesn't make us feel stupid for not knowing or get mad when we mess it up (we aren't perfect and on that note: anyone who thinks perfection exists is an idiot)
- Brave and will protect us and stand up for us, but isn't a bully or a jealous asshole who has to beat up every guy who hits on his girl
- Not afraid of talking and communicating what's on his mind, but also allows his girl to give her opinion on the subject and consider the advice she may give (sometime we do have good advice and all we ever want to do is HELP if we are able to).... also, no crying please (it's not manly unless someone has died)
- Not addicted to things (gambling, drugs, alcohol, video games, sex, porn, smoking) - sorry, there's no exception to this one... (maybe if a girl is a smoker, then smoking would be okay)
- Financially secure and knows the value of a dollar, but also knows when to spend money and have some fun :)
- Active and creative (like hiking, going to the lake, or simply home improvements), AND likes to involve his girl in those activities when it's not a designated "guys day"
- Thoughtful enough to make or buy cards and/or gifts to recognize a holiday or special occasion, AND knows that it's not about the amount of money spent... In fact, cards and presents don't matter as long as the guy DID something to celebrate that didn't have any benefit to him (sex always benefits a guy, so that will never be an acceptable 'gift' (I don't care how many candles are lit or rose petals are on the floor)
- Nice, but not too nice (this one is tough to accept, but it's true for at least the first year of dating)
- Considerate of the words that come out of his mouth, but also can be himself and express opinions
Really what this all comes down to is balance.
Men don't like the idea of change very often, but in order to have balance, a person has to constantly analyze what's going on around them and be willing to bend, redirect and change.
Life is tough. And love is a mother fucker.
If you're a guy reading this thinking "Well this is just a list of what Britt wants in a man. There are a million other girls out there with a million other opinions", then you're an idiot.
I'm going to be frank right here - any girl who DOESN'T look for these qualities in a relationship has something wrong with her. She's got daddy issues, drug issues, personality issues, financial issues... you name it, I guarantee she has something wrong with her, affecting her judgement in a man.
I'M NOT PERFECT!!!! (Trust me, I know this better than anyone)
The biggest thing I do differently from other girls is that I LEARN from my past and I actively CHOOSE happiness above all else.
My Questions:
1) Are you able to just sit with yourself and be happy with who you are and the life you're living?
2) Why are so many people in this world miserable? Happiness is a state of mind, not the circumstances...
3) What do you believe love is?
4) IF divorce didn't exist, would you ever get married in today's world?
Live.Love.Learn.Laugh.
BRITT~
Sunday, April 10, 2011
Number.01 - I don't NEED a man
How do you get nervous writing a blog? Technically no one is watching. Hell, no one is even reading it (yet). Now that I'm sitting here with my new blog account, a pretty pathetic profile, a photo and a simple layout, my weeks of built up thoughts and ideas have completely escaped me.
Couple deep breathes. Okay. Couple more...
If I were on the phone talking with a friend right now I would be telling them how I had planned to go to the gym after work today and I decided to go home and make Oreo Truffles instead (seems like a good excuse to not work out, right?). I'd be telling them about the overall weekend and see if they did anything fun. Most likely, nothing all that exciting happened.
I'm 24 years old. I live in Las Vegas. I don't "Party like a Rock Star" because I don't see the purpose in spending $20 (after tip) for ONE FUCKING DRINK and I don't believe it's right to lead a man on just to get that $20 drink. Additionally, I know I'm worth a hell of a lot more than the cost of alcohol (not in a conceited way, seriously) I don't have any addictions. I don't smoke, only drink socially, work out a fair amount, never have done an illegal drug in my life, definitely won't find me sticking around work for the 'fun' of it, I only have one pet, I enjoy sex a lot but even then I'm not addicted to it or anything else sexually related.
A lot of people ask me why I am single.
In all honesty I have a lot of reasons why I'm single.
To name a few:
1. Men and women are complicated. I find it usually takes at least 3 dates to figure a guy out. By then, he's in love and I've discovered everything wrong with him.
2. I don't want kids (and never have) and the guys who don't want kids either make me nervous because what if I change my mind 10-15 years from now?
3. The majority of guys find me intimidating. Which makes me want to scream GROW A FUCKING PAIR ALREADY!!!
4. I am independent and creative. I do what I want, when I want and how I want.
5. I am 100% debt free, employed and I volunteer.
6. I'm happy just being me and I know exactly who I am on the inside.
7. My expectations for a man are numerous, but I'm confident I give just as much (if not more) than I expect.
Here are my questions on the topic:
Why are there soooo many toxic relationships in today's society?
Why does it seem like guys won't just step up for their woman just for the sake of being a MAN?
Do men really not understand that women want it all? or Are they just too stubborn or lazy to give?
Will the next generation of young girls look at our generation and see hope for love or will they become even more self sufficient than we (ladies) are now?
Live.Love.Learn.Laugh
BRITT~
Couple deep breathes. Okay. Couple more...
If I were on the phone talking with a friend right now I would be telling them how I had planned to go to the gym after work today and I decided to go home and make Oreo Truffles instead (seems like a good excuse to not work out, right?). I'd be telling them about the overall weekend and see if they did anything fun. Most likely, nothing all that exciting happened.
I'm 24 years old. I live in Las Vegas. I don't "Party like a Rock Star" because I don't see the purpose in spending $20 (after tip) for ONE FUCKING DRINK and I don't believe it's right to lead a man on just to get that $20 drink. Additionally, I know I'm worth a hell of a lot more than the cost of alcohol (not in a conceited way, seriously) I don't have any addictions. I don't smoke, only drink socially, work out a fair amount, never have done an illegal drug in my life, definitely won't find me sticking around work for the 'fun' of it, I only have one pet, I enjoy sex a lot but even then I'm not addicted to it or anything else sexually related.
A lot of people ask me why I am single.
In all honesty I have a lot of reasons why I'm single.
To name a few:
1. Men and women are complicated. I find it usually takes at least 3 dates to figure a guy out. By then, he's in love and I've discovered everything wrong with him.
2. I don't want kids (and never have) and the guys who don't want kids either make me nervous because what if I change my mind 10-15 years from now?
3. The majority of guys find me intimidating. Which makes me want to scream GROW A FUCKING PAIR ALREADY!!!
4. I am independent and creative. I do what I want, when I want and how I want.
5. I am 100% debt free, employed and I volunteer.
6. I'm happy just being me and I know exactly who I am on the inside.
7. My expectations for a man are numerous, but I'm confident I give just as much (if not more) than I expect.
Here are my questions on the topic:
Why are there soooo many toxic relationships in today's society?
Why does it seem like guys won't just step up for their woman just for the sake of being a MAN?
Do men really not understand that women want it all? or Are they just too stubborn or lazy to give?
Will the next generation of young girls look at our generation and see hope for love or will they become even more self sufficient than we (ladies) are now?
Live.Love.Learn.Laugh
BRITT~
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